My sweet Buggy…you just never know what you are going to get. One moment she is sweet as pie. Telling me how much she loves me…. give me a kiss mommy, wanting to dress like me or do my hair. Just an angel! In fact if you ask her “what are you?” she will quickly reply, ” an angel”.
And then there is this Buggy:
This is the Buggy that I see most days. This is the one that Monkey and I refer to as “Chucky.” He has no idea the meaning of that, but oh I do! She loves the word NO and LEAVE ME ALONE. I attribute this to the terrible twos.I am soooo hoping that this phase ends quickly!
No matter her mood, the girl is a DIVA. She is constantly having wardrobe changes. She feels most complete with her skirt, heels, crown and a straw (which in her mind is her wand). We spend most days singing Let It Go and I find myself knocking on her door and saying Elsa, are you in there? Wanna build a snowman?
As her mother, I love every single side of her. Many get frustrated and chalk it up to definace. I like to view it as her being a head strong female. She knows what she wants and that will pay off in her future. For the time being, I direct her in the appropriate manner, explain right from wrong, distribute spankings when necessary, and pray A LOT.
We shall see how the Bugs manifests when the new Hill arrives, Lord save some time for me….I may need even more of your guidance!!
So I am sure there are so many unwritten rules of parenting. They have been passed down through the years, generation after generation. Well…in my house, these rules are meant to be broken.
1. No throwing things in the house!!!! I have to say that we definitely do not follow this rule. My husband and my son are constantly throwing a football or basketball. I did however draw the line at no golf clubs in the house and no punting. The rest is a free for all. One of the greatest laughs is watching Monkey go for a long pass, run it in for a touchdown, spike it and then show off his latest touchdown dance! My husband is always practicing his latest trick shot that banks off the high walls…off his head…and into the basket. Of course Monkey has to follow suit and attempt it. AND….the only person to have broken anything knock on wood, is ME!!!! I attempted one of the hubs’ trick shot and hit the lampshade….cracking it. OOPS!!!! I did mention this all takes place in my living room right???
2. No staying up late!!! This rule has to be broken for us to have quality time together. Whoever thought working in education meant getting off at 3:30 is sadly mistaken. My schedule usually has me getting out of school on most days at 4:30 and depending on games it maybe close to 9 before I leave….at night! My hubs coaches and that is a crazy hectic schedule all in itself! The average time home is between 6 and 7pm. Buggy gets about an hour with him and it kills him. So being the awesome mom I am, Monkey gets to stay up and play with Dad. Bed time at our place is about 9. He maybe a bit cranky but being able to spend time with his dad outweighs the negatives!
3. So his socks don’t match…so what! At least he is dressed and he did it himself. I don’t think mismatched socks is the end of the world. Life goes on and he is proud of his accomplishment!
4. Yep, my kids watch TV…and OMG he watches it falling asleep I monitor the programs my kids watch and I make sure that there is an educational purpose behind each and every one of them…but I let them watch it and I do use it as a babysitter during certain times. I am pretty sure a good dose of Wild Kratts or Special Agent Oso will not hurt while I make dinner, do the laundry or have a moment of me time!!! AND YES!!! my son watches tv every night while he falls asleep. Hey moms…get a tv with a sleep timer on it. He has 30 mins and then lights out. I have had no issues and he knows that when show goes off…its time to go to bed, if he isn’t asleep before that.
5. Bath times don’t occur daily! I have to admit it…there have been times when I could not remember when I gave my kids a bath. I know that it had been in the past week…maybe week and a half. OOPS…what mom/dad out there has not experienced that??? If you say you haven’t QUIT LYING!!!! As they are getting older…play harder…and eat messier food – independently (food in hair) I have been more diligent about bath times. Let’s face it, you have worked hard, exhausted, dinner cooked, kitchen cleaned and all you want is to sit on the couch and relax….that extra 15-20 minutes of bath time is just something that can be put off until tomorrow!
Moms and dads…rules are meant to be broken!!!
Which rules are you guilty of breaking????
Life is so full…well, mine is anyhow. I am learning how to not put too much on my plate, but I continually struggle with this.
I am a wife to a coach, we have two toddler children, full-time job, blogger, free-lance writer, friend, daughter…the list goes on.
This past week I came down with the flu and I had to learn to just be content with lying there…and trying to breathe.
My inner self was saying, YOU NEED TO GET UP AND TAKE CARE OF YOUR FAMILY WOMAN! and my body was saying PLEASE JUST RELAX.
When it came down to it, I sided with my body…at least for a day or two.
Life teaches us lessons everyday if you just let it. I now understand that the world will not crumble if the dishes are not done, kids are not bathed that night or dinner is take out instead of home cooked.
What does matter is that I take notice of life occurences that are happening all around. Don’t take the sunlight and its warmth for granted. Enjoy every giggle and every tear your child makes. The kiss of your spouse is magical. A friendly hello is always welcoming. The smell of coffee (and wine) is enticing!
Life is good…it’s all about how you perceive it.
Sorry, I had to get that out. I feel much better!
The past few
neverending nights, have been quite difficult for Ladybug and myself. Well, actually its been nearly six months since I had a full 8+ hours of sleep; but these past few weeks have been extra hard. She keeps waking up 2-3 times. I am sure that it is because she is teething, but when she sees me, she equates that with feeding time. I have decided that it is time to work on sleeping the full night (Monkey slept through the night at 3 months!)
That brings me to Ferber. The Ferber Method is for baby training ie..they til they fall asleep. Let me tell you that this is the hardest thing I have EVER done.
Last night, I told myself that I would not get go to her room. This was going to be the night that she would put herself back to sleep. At 12:36 AM, the crying began:
I turned off the monitor and closed my eyes, she was going to cry for a little bit, I told myself, then fall back asleep. 12:28 AM (the longest 2 minutes), I turned on the TV to drown her out. Its amazing how well a mother can hear her child crying, nothing was masking the sounds.
Finally, at 12:44 AM, I threw back the covers, muttered to hubs that he needed to schedule HIS operation with the doctor because I was done having kids, and then I proceeded upstairs…bottle in hand. As soon as the ladybug saw me, a smile was plastered on her face.
It was then that I decided that I need to just get used to little sleep, because there is no way that I am letting my precious buggy cry like that another night.
It has been a bit since I have written. Life has been crazy! We welcomed Maddox Kristine into our lives July 3rd. She is the sweetest little peanut. The hubs, Jax and I are completely in love with her. She has been a really great little one. I get up about 2-3 times a night to feed her and then she goes right back to sleep.
I honestly feel completely blessed. God is good to us and we feel honored to have such wonderful children. Jax is doing good, but he has his outburst moments. I am not sure if he is jealous or just being 2 1/2…or both!
We are starting potty training on Monday! I bought him big boy undies and I am going to make him a potty sticker chart. Please give us your prayers and I am completely open to suggestions…How did you potty train your little one?