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Correcting behavior before things get CRAZY!!!

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I have been off work less than a week for my summer hiatis…thanks to the awesome world of education. In that short amount of time, I can’t count how many times Monkey and Buggy have argued, yelled, whined and just plain disobeyed what I had to say.

I did what every resourceful mother does…head straight to Pinterest. With several ideas from fellow Pinners, I came up with a mesh of  family calendar, behavior chart and reward jar. It was actually quite simple after my visit to the local Wal-Mart and Michaels’ Craft Store.

 

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I used:

  • Dry Erase/Magnetic Calendar Board
  • Fun Neon dry Erase markers
  • craft paper in green, yellow, red and black
  • Silver permanent marker
  • packing tape
  • mini wooden craft sticks
  • magnetic buttons with foam adhesive on one side
  • markers
  • Mason jar
  • sticky letters
  • scissors
  • pom-pom in assorted colors

 

BEHAVIORAL CHART

I used the mason jar lid to trace my circles for the behavioral chart. The stop light system worked so well for Monkey in pre-school…I just added black for a harsher punishment.

Each color was labeled with the silver marker and then secured to the calendar with clear packing tape.

  • Green – “good job!” every day starts off on green
  • yellow – “uh-oh” – time for a chat and short time out…discuss that behavior and how to correct it, what is desired and what is undesired
  • red – “on-no” – consequence based on behavior, this may warrant a longer time-out, spanking, or grounding
  • black – “yikes” – Mr. Sad time, a not so fun spanking that is a last straw. Fortunately my kids are just as intimidated by the idea of Mr. Sad ( wooden spoon with a sad face) than actually receiving Mr. Sad

 

The craft sticks were added to the magnetic buttons and labeled with kiddos names.

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REWARD JAR

A Ball mason jar, found at Michaels’ is what I chose to use as the reward jar. Every evening at bedtime, if the kiddos are still on green a large pom-pom is added to the jar.

Throughout the day, smaller pom-poms are added based on good deeds, being respectful, being nice to each other, etc.

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With my kids ages, 5 and 3, I decided to have them work collaboratively on a jar. When they reach the goal they get to receive a special reward:

  • trip to yogurt shop
  • new DVD
  • mini shopping trip for a new toy
  • other special treats mom and dad can come up with

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So, now that only thing we can do is PRAY that this works.

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Please share your ideas, comments, or questions!

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The many sides of Buggy…

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My sweet Buggy…you just never know what you are going to get. One moment she is sweet as pie. Telling me how much she loves me…. give me a kiss mommy, wanting to dress like me or do my hair. Just an angel! In fact if you ask her “what are you?” she will quickly reply, ” an angel”.

 

 

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And then there is this Buggy:

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This is the Buggy that I see most days. This is the one that Monkey and I refer to as “Chucky.” He has no idea the meaning of that, but oh I do! She loves the word NO and LEAVE ME ALONE. I attribute this to the terrible twos.I am soooo hoping that this phase ends quickly!

No matter her mood, the girl is a DIVA. She is constantly having wardrobe changes. She feels most complete with her skirt, heels, crown and a straw (which in her mind is her wand). We spend most days singing Let It Go and I find myself knocking on her door and saying Elsa, are you in there? Wanna build a snowman?

As her mother, I love every single side of her. Many get frustrated and chalk it up to definace. I like to view it as her being a head strong female. She knows what she wants and that will pay off in her future. For the time being, I direct her in the appropriate manner, explain right from wrong, distribute spankings when necessary, and pray A LOT.

We shall see how the Bugs manifests when the new Hill arrives, Lord save some time for me….I may need even more of your guidance!!

 

 

It happened so fast….

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This year went by so incredibly fast. I can’t believe that I have one year of administration under my belt. I have to say…I LOVED every minute of it. Every discipline case, every drama filled story that entered my office, every tear that students shed (I partook in a few) and most of all the laughter that occurred. I attribute all of it to the amazing staff I work with, that I proudly call my friends. Our office staff is full of goofball, silly, hardworking, loving people. I have learned not only the ins and outs of administration from an awesome principal, but I have also learned to laugh at situations (the “cray-crays” as we call them) and to laugh at myself more. I dare you to step into our office and hold back a smile. It’s impossible. We have more fun….productive fun that is, than dare I say any other campus in our district; maybe I’m just a bit biased.

I can say that there seriously has not been one day this year when I have woken and said, or merely thought, ugh, I have to go to work today! It has not happened…and believe me, I have had some humdinger days….cray-cray parents verbally attack me, goofy kids refusing to abide by rules, the never ending ARD meeting, and the awesome world of STAAR.

I attribute my happiness to God. I did my fair share of praying about a fulfilling career. I prayed that I would get a position as an Assistant Principal at my previous district and when that didn’t work out, I was crushed. I thought, what will I do….I can’t leave what I know! What I forgot to do was put my trust in God and know that He knows what I need. My prayers were really being answered and now I see that loud and clear.

Now it is time to enjoy my summer. Prepare to welcome Baby Hill into the world….those are a whole new set of blogs to come, and focus on the fam! It will not be long before I go back to a new set of kiddos and a new adventure in the world of Ninth Graders come August!

Allergies are the devil…but we have learn to conquer them!

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Prior to being introduced to Young Living Essential Oils, my family walked around like zombies in the allergy season. We were all so doped up on meds. NOW: we are conquering our allergies without the use of any over the counter medicines. Being pregnant, this works really well for me.  I would love to take you on a little journey of our daily regimen of oiling up.

5:45am – I am up! Earl Grey Tea made with a drop of lemon and a drop of Thieves to help boost immunity and protect me from all the yuk in the air

6am – showered and ready for my own concoction. I use a trio of Lemon, Peppermint and Lavender with Almond Oil ( 2 drops each) applied to chest and throat as well as  apply Joy behind my ears for an uplifting sense.

630am – KIDS are UP!!!! Chocolate Almond Milk in cups…kiddos watching cartoons and Thieves and Lemon in the diffuser.

7am – ready to get kids dressed, Almond Oil and a drop of Thieves and Lemon on the kids feet and lavender on their spines…..they are ready to conquer the day. If Buggy seems fussy, Peace and Calming is applied to her chest and Monkey gets a dab of Valor on his for courage to conquer the day, which is also great at night for dealing with monsters in closets or under beds!

We proceed through the day. When my day gets hectic, I run some Stress Away on my wrist for a calming effect. My co-workers know where it’s at and are free to use if the need arises. Working with 500 14-15 year olds, there is always a need for Stress Away!

At night, we repeat the same procedures we have in the morning. 30 minutes prior to each of our bed times, I diffuse Peace and Calming for a restful night sleep.

I am convinced….my husband is sold….and my kids LOVE the fact they do not have to taste anymore yucky medicine!  A huge shout out to Young Living and their amazing oils!

Disclaimer: I am only just a normal girl. I am not a doctor. I share what works with my family. Check out the tab “YOUNG LIVING ROCKS” for order details!

It’s so easy for them

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excuse the blurryness…they wouldn’t hold still for a moment!!

 

My heart swells with pride watching my children enjoy life. I hope to be a student of them as much as they are a student of me.

My daughter says hello to every one that passes by…everyone. It doesn’t matter if we are on foot or in a car. She is waving and saying hello. I absolutely love and admire her unconditional acceptance of people. As adults, I wish we all had more of that. It seems that our environment and experiences make us hesitant to embrace those who are different. I want that back!!!

My son…he can enter a new environment, be it a soccer field, school classroom or a mall playground and make instant friends. His imagination is limitless. He and a boy he met at the playground last night played for a solid 30 minutes and their imagination was incredible. They didn’t care who was around or who overheard their elaborate scheme. They just played. I want that back!!!

I love spending time with my kids and understanding that they can teach me sometimes more than I can teach them….at just at the right time.

I have no one else to blame but me.

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A friend was recently telling me about the ideas and premise of Tony Robbins, the motivational and life coach. Robbins explains that YOU are in charge of YOUR OWN outcome. If you are sad, you and only you have the ability to make you happy again. It is your choice…your decision… and ultimately the outcome is based on you.

This has had me really thinking lately. I have no one else to blame for my down days except me. I am in control of my actions and reactions. That is why I have started paying attention to little details in my daily life that ultimately make a big difference.

– I have always liked the idea of working out in the morning because a.) you burn more calories throughout the day and b.) life gets too hectic when everyone else in the house is up and going. Therefore, this entire week I have worked out in the morning….no excuses. The alarm goes off, I snooze for 5 more minutes and then I am up and out the door to the gym. I have felt great this week!!! It was my choice!

– Kids will be kids. After working with precious teenagers all week, often times I come home with very little patience. I have tried to maintain composure, not get overly upset at the mistakes my own babies make. I am trying to verbal discuss Monkey’s wrong choices without raising my voice (this is one I still need a bit more practice on). Just Breathe!!

– Just because the hubs doesn’t do every little romantic thing I have conjured up in my mind, doesn’t mean he isn’t showing my his love in his own way. I don’t need a dozen rose petals laid out across the bed, I don’t need a poem detailing his love (ok…maybe bad examples…those are all cheesy in my book!) I am completely thrilled when he rinses off all the dishes in the sink and leaves them to be put in the dishwasher…that is another piece of love…he knows that I am uber anal-retentive with my dishwasher space…JUST LET ME DO IT!!!!

I am in control of my emotions. I am in control of pain and pleasure. I am the sayer of what I want to do. I know that there are consequences and rewards for things I do or choose not to do. I am loving the fact that I am in this state of realization. I know that God is not going to give me anything that I can not handle. His faith in me and mine in Him has more power than anything else.

How do you get through life’s daily trials and tribulations?

Rules of parenting…whatever!

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So I am sure there are so many unwritten rules of parenting. They have been passed down through the years, generation after generation. Well…in my house, these rules are meant to be broken.

1. No throwing things in the house!!!!  I have to say that we definitely do not follow this rule. My husband and my son are constantly throwing a football or basketball. I did however draw the line at no golf clubs in the house and no punting. The rest is a free for all. One of the greatest laughs is watching Monkey go for a long pass, run it in for a touchdown, spike it and then show off his latest touchdown dance! My husband is always practicing his latest trick shot that banks off the high walls…off his head…and into the basket. Of course Monkey has to follow suit and attempt it. AND….the only person to have broken anything knock on wood, is ME!!!! I attempted one of the hubs’ trick shot and hit the lampshade….cracking it. OOPS!!!!  I did mention this all takes place in my living room right???

2. No staying up late!!! This rule has to be broken for us to have quality time together. Whoever thought working in education meant getting off at 3:30 is sadly mistaken. My schedule usually has me getting out of school on most days at 4:30 and depending on games it maybe close to 9 before I leave….at night! My hubs coaches and that is a crazy hectic schedule all in itself! The average time home is between 6 and 7pm. Buggy gets about an hour with him and it kills him. So being the awesome mom I am, Monkey gets to stay up and play with Dad. Bed time at our place is about 9. He maybe a bit cranky but being able to spend time with his dad outweighs the negatives!

3. So his socks don’t match…so what! At least he is dressed and he did it himself. I don’t think mismatched socks is the end of the world. Life goes on and he is proud of his accomplishment!

4. Yep, my kids watch TV…and OMG he watches it falling asleep  I monitor the programs my kids watch and I make sure that there is an educational purpose behind each and every one of them…but I let them watch it and I do use it as a babysitter during certain times. I am pretty sure a good dose of Wild Kratts or Special Agent Oso will not hurt while I make dinner, do the laundry or have a moment of me time!!!  AND YES!!! my son watches tv every night while he falls asleep. Hey moms…get a tv with a sleep timer on it. He has 30 mins and then lights out. I have had no issues and he knows that when show goes off…its time to go to bed, if he isn’t asleep before that.

5. Bath times don’t occur daily! I have to admit it…there have been times when I could not remember when I gave my kids a bath. I know that it had been in the past week…maybe week and a half. OOPS…what mom/dad out there has not experienced that??? If you say you haven’t QUIT  LYING!!!! As they are getting older…play harder…and eat messier food –  independently (food in hair) I have been more diligent about bath times. Let’s face it, you have worked hard, exhausted, dinner cooked, kitchen cleaned and all you want is to sit on the couch and relax….that extra 15-20 minutes of bath time is just something that can be put off until tomorrow!

Moms and dads…rules are meant to be broken!!!

Which rules are you guilty of breaking????

The beauty of the normal

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Days like today hold such a precious place in my heart. There was nothing spectacular or fancy about the days events…they were actually quite…normal. I did have the day off of work, so I was able to spend the whole day with my kids. We got up, hung out at the house for the morning then loaded up and headed to our fave chicken eatery with the indoor playground.

The older my kids get, the better they are at playing together. Monkey coaxed Bugs up the playground and then they took turns sliding down the slide. Up, down, repeat… for about an hour.

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When I suggested lunch, there was no arguing or whining. They both let me put their shoes on and we ate. When it was time to leave, there was very little whining and we left.

Nap time/quiet time went perfectly. Daddy came home and took the kids to play while I had a beautiful run in the great weather. Dinner made, ate, family time, baths and bedtime.

The reason I explained this day is because it really was not anything extravagant. There was no huge surprises nor was a ton of money spent.

We all had a very normal day but at the end I feel more blessed today than I have in a long time. I do believe that I am beginning to focus on the beauty of the normal. Everyday playing out as it should. Recognizing that a normal day can be just as special as something elaborately planned out.

Take the time to just breathe

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Life is so full…well, mine is anyhow.  I am learning how to not put too much on my plate, but I continually struggle with this.

I am a wife to a coach, we have two toddler children, full-time job, blogger, free-lance writer, friend, daughter…the list goes on.

This past week I came down with the flu and I had to learn to just be content with lying there…and trying to breathe.

My inner self was saying, YOU NEED TO GET UP AND TAKE CARE OF YOUR FAMILY WOMAN! and my body was saying PLEASE JUST RELAX.

When it came down to it, I sided with my body…at least for a day or two.

Life teaches us lessons everyday if you just let it. I now understand that the world will not crumble if the dishes are not done, kids are not bathed that night or dinner is take out instead of home cooked.

What does matter is that I take notice of life occurences that are happening all around. Don’t take the sunlight and its warmth for granted. Enjoy every giggle and every tear your  child makes. The kiss of your spouse is magical. A friendly hello is always welcoming. The smell of coffee (and wine) is enticing!

Life is good…it’s all about how you perceive it.

~Namaste

Why? Will we ever know…

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I know that the Sandy Hook Elementary tragedy is on everyone’s mind. This morning it was on the news and mentioned on several of the radio stations I listen to in the morning. The victims were honored at a memorial last night and many of the children were being buried today.

As a member of the education world and a mom, I feel like I am affected by this times 2. I try not to watch or read too much because the senseless event breaks my heart too much; however, I feel like I need to stay attuned to the details because I too am an employee of a school system who is not immune to such tragedies.

I sit here and wonder what in life is so terrible that a person had to open fire on children and adults…but seriously…children. What purpose is there in killing a group of 6 and 7 year olds. What makes me even angrier is that the man took his own life and we may never know the answers to questions.

Moms hug your children extra tight tonight. Spend a little extra time with them. Teachers and administrators….spend some time making sure your campus is up to date with lock down information, drills and safety precautions.

I pray for the parents, family and friends of all those victims. The courageous heroes that died protecting their students and the innocence taken.

It’s already starting….

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I can do it myself, Mom….

The words every mother is happy to hear and dreads at the same time.

Getting dressed

Filling his cup with water

Brushing his teeth

Buckling his seat belt

It has been my job as the primary caretaker to do everything for my children. Now Monkey feels the need to be independent…sniff sniff (luckily Buggy is still VERY dependent on mom)

I know…I know…this is what I have been teaching him for the past 3 years but my heart sinks a bit more every time those  words come out of his mouth.

As we were having cuddle time last night I asked him if he will always need his mommy and to my delight, he said YES!!!!

Thankful Thursday ~ L.O.V.E.

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There is a big joke in my family. Ammie LOVES everything. My brother-in-law always teases me; if I am really excited about something, the words you will LOVE it always passes my lips. But the truth is…I DO LOVE … A LOT!

L – Laughter – The laughter in my world is amazing. My laughter, my kids, my friends and my family. I have one of those laughs that is loud and deep in my belly. It feels good to laugh so hard that tears stream down my face.  My kids and their antics are hilarious. The words that come out of my son’s mouth are classic. I REALLY should keep a journal of his new sayings! Life is meant to be loved.

O – Observation – Just being still and observing life and the love that is all around. One of my intentions nearly everyday is to just be still and observe. Life is meant to be loved.

V – Vivacious – I love being lively in spirit. It is very rarely that I get and stay in a bad mood. I am human, I get upset, but I get over it. There is only a  certain number of minutes in my life that I get to spend with my friends and family. It would not be fair to my children and my husband if I were to be in a foul mood the majority of the time. I PREFER to see the glass as half full all the time! Life is meant to be loved!

E – Espresso – hahaha….coffee, along with the other fine things in life is supposed to be enjoyed. I tried to give it up…then I asked myself WHY???? Why would I deprive myself of the riches of coffee, or wine, or delicious food smothered in butter???? I have learned the importance of quanitity….not deprivation. Life is meant to be loved.

Love what you see. Love who you are. Love those around you.

~Namaste~

What is it about life that you truly love?

Thankful Thursday….not many will admit it but…

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There are not a whole lot of moms out there that will openly admit what I am about to….I am very thankful for the fact that I have a job outside of the house! Let me clarify… I have the utmost respect for the moms that work in the home. That in itself is one tough job.

This is the first summer that I have stayed home in my 6 years of teaching…no summer school, no summer job….nothing. Home with a 3 and 1/2 year old and a teething 1 year old.  My nerves are shot and my house is not clean.  I entertain and love on my kids all day…there is no time for cleaning. When they nap, I workout,shower and grab a little tiny nap myself.

I am on a 3 week count down until I go back to work.  I personally am a better mom because I do get out of the house everyday.  My patience level is better and I am super excited to see mykids when I get home.

My thankful point today….that I am a working mom!!!

What is your thankful point for today?

Fifty Shades of other stuff

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It’s back!!!!! My modem arrived and my Wifi is back up and surging again….very similar to my uhhhh…imagination.

Since I have had to acknowledge my hiatus from True Blood I have been spending all some of my time reading the elusive new book series, Fifty Shades. Let’s just say its been leisure time well spent..double wink!

Other than that, my summer vaca has not been overly exciting. Spending time with the kids is amazing, when they aren’t yelling at each other or crying! Poor guy-the hubs-he works so much during the first part of the summer.

So now the wifi is working, boys are out on the course, sister is down….time for Bill, Sookie and Eric!!! Bye for now

Imperfect really is perfect

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Every morning I wake up, go to the bathroom and trudge to the scales. I patiently await the numbers to see what it will tell me today:
– hey lady…that extra serving of _____ has left you with a few extras ounces/pounds
– the past weekend indulgences will take a couple days to disappear

Moving off the scale, I head to the kitchen to make a much needed cup of morning coffee.

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In front of the bathroom mirror I inspect myself. I, honestly, weigh about the same (some days less) than I did before Ladybug but it is in all different places. When will this extra skin go away? Is it possible to move the excess from my thighs farther north? (if you know what I mean)
It wasn’t really until today…right at this moment… that I realized I am the way I am now because of the two amazing beings that are playing together as I type. It is because I was given the gift of motherhood that my “imperfections” really are perfections.

Now don’t mistake this for an excuse to not continue to improve my health and well being BUT I think that I just may give my exhausted scale some time off for a bit.

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I LOVE it when he captures my heart like this.

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So Monkey was a royal terror yesterday. His Pops was coming to visit and I didn’t want to risk the chance of him sleeping through the visit, so I had the great idea that we would just skip nap time.

Whoa…that 2 hours of slumber makes a HUGE difference. By 3:00 he was wild and definitely belonged in a zoo. I was getting glares, whines and back talk. I was greatly regretting my decision.

UNTIL….it was close to nite-nite time and he laid on my chest and said the most awesome thing that made all the crappy stuff from earlier just disappear.

“mommy..i love you. you and daddy are my best friends.”

then he tucked his arm under me and was out….at the same time my heart melted.

And then there was Wednesday….

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So I actually had the opportunity to take the day off with my children while they were healthy…there was no fever, coughing, throwing up or drippy runny noses. It was just me and the kiddos. And I have to tell you it was absolutely perfect. I did have an almost 3 year-old pee all over the floor BUT he was SOOOO proud because he was standing up “just like daddy!” I couldn’t be mad. I just cleaned up the mess and sat him down to finish. Ladybug and I got to play on the floor and she nearly crawled. I would have been so stoked to have seen her crawl for the first time.

That’s when I realized that it more than likely will not be me that sees many of her “firsts.” Just like it wasn’t me that witnessed many of Monkey’s firsts. I AM truly blessed that MiMi is there in my absence as opposed to daycare. But my goal is to find a way to stay at home with my kids! It is my mission!

So then there was Wednesday morning…on the ride to work I was sullen, I admit it…near pouting. The hubs kept asking what was wrong. I resorted to say “nothing” because ultimately he just doesn’t understand the intense burn I have in my heart to be with my kids. So I just pray!

I am quite lucky, that until I fulfill my dream, I have a great job teaching really good kids….they just aren’t mine!

No wonder he’s all about daddy lately…

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SO my hubs tells me not to worry about it….”he’s a two-year old” – “he doesn’t really mean it”…BUT my son never wants mommy when daddy is home. If he falls, he runs to daddy, even though mommy has magic kisses. In the middle of the night, when he is scared, it’s daddy’s name that he calls. It makes me sad and when he wipes my kisses off, my feelings do get hurt. I know that he really does love me and it is all a stage, but as I have been watching the Disney movies with him lately I have noticed…where are all the moms?


Finding Nemo….she died at the very beginning.

Beauty and the Beast….mom died as well

Cinderella….step mom is EVIL!

Bambi….killed

WHAT THE HECK????? My son needs movies with strong moms!!!!

What are your thoughts?

Pardon me Ferber…but screw you!

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Sorry, I had to get that out. I feel much better!

The past few neverending nights, have been quite difficult for Ladybug and myself. Well, actually its been nearly six months since I had a full 8+ hours of sleep; but these past few weeks have been extra hard. She keeps waking up 2-3 times. I am sure that it is because she is teething, but when she sees me, she equates that with feeding time. I have decided that it is time to work on sleeping the full night (Monkey slept through the night at 3 months!)

That brings me to Ferber. The Ferber Method is for baby training  ie..they til they fall asleep. Let me tell you that this is the hardest thing I have EVER done.

Last night, I told myself that I would not get go to her room. This was going to be the night that she would put herself back to sleep. At 12:36 AM, the crying began:

I turned off the monitor and closed my eyes, she was going to cry for a little bit, I told myself, then fall back asleep. 12:28 AM (the longest 2 minutes), I turned on the TV to drown her out. Its amazing how well a mother can hear her child crying, nothing was masking the sounds.

Finally, at 12:44 AM, I threw back the covers, muttered to hubs that he needed to schedule HIS operation with the doctor because I was done having kids, and then I proceeded upstairs…bottle in hand. As soon as the ladybug saw me, a smile was plastered on her face.

It was then that I decided that I need to just get used to little sleep, because there is no way that I am letting my precious buggy cry like that another night.

Thankful Thursday

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I asked my kiddos in class today what they are thankful for and the answers were interesting. You would think that most 10 year-olds would say money or presents, but most of them said family or the roof over their heads and some even said Mrs. Hill (my heart fluttered.) Got me thinking…what is it that I am thankful for today?

I am most thankful for…well…everything in my life right now. I have such an awesome family that helps me out more than I could ever repay them for. I have a great husband who gets me. and my kids….wow they are just freaking amazing. I watch them sleep or watch them partake in normal activities and I just want to squeeze them.  They are so beautiful and perfect. Makes me think…how do parents just walk away from their children…or hurt them, physically or emotionally. I just can’t even fathom that.

What is it that you are thankful for today?

Dare I say, what’s next?

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As I finished my last test for my Masters degree on Saturday…an 8 hour one at that, I sat at the computer and exhaled very loudly. I was done! I sat back, opened a cold beer to celebrate and thought about all that I had done in the past 3 years. It was at that point that I realized, I AM TIRED! Not just tired from sitting at a computer screen, but physically and mentally tired from my activities for the past 3 years. Some one asked me….how have you balanced everything? The term “everything” is being used to include 2 pregnancies, 2 babies, being a wife of a coach,a full-time teacher with several sponsorships at the high school level, AND graduate school. With that, I bring you this blog explaining how I have attempted to make like work for the past 3 years. Disclaimer – I am not an expert on balancing life…this is just how it worked out for me.

FAITH!!! Without faith in my God and myself, there is no way I could have made it. There were so many times that I would sit at my computer and just cry, knowing that I had a paper or project due and I was completely exhausted from being up with one or both of the kids. I prayed a lot for serenity and patience…and I made it.

FAMILY!!! I am not sure I would have been able to accomplish even a fraction of what I have if it were not for my family…more specifially my mom and my husband. So many times I had classes or duties on Saturdays or in the evenings and not once did my mother hesitate taking my babies. She is a God-send and I am so blessed to have her in my life (ok…mom, I know that you are tearing up now but you have to stop so that you can read the rest!) My husband – he helped all that he could with the kids, but his schedule is so demanding that it was not always possible. The amazing ways he helped me keep my sanity was by taking me out for date nights, or surprising me with spa days, and more importantly…keeping me stocked with my favorite wine so I could unwind at the end of the day. He will never know the extent to which I love and appreciate him.

FRIENDS!!! Without the occasional girls night, or even just a rant fest on the phone, I would have gone insane. I have a great core group of girls. We may not see or talk to each other on a daily basis, but I know that they are there when I need them. All have taken a turn watching my kids or running an errand for me. We all love each other and I am complete because of them!

AND OF COURSE WINE!!! It sounds funny, but so true. There were so many nights were I would be worried or wired from endless hours of homework, job duties or just everyday events, that I NEEDED to enjoy a nice glass of wine to relax. Some of my favorite nights included putting the kids down for bed and sitting on the couch with the hubs and a glass of wine…just talking. So relaxing and romantic!

Now that my chaotic 3 years are coming to a close…culminating on Dec 17th as I cross the stage, I sit here and ponder the question “What do I do now?” I am so used to the hustle and bustle that I am afraid that I will get bored. I have decided that it is time to start back up on NormalGirlArt, write A LOT, read lots of books for fun, and maybe have another kid. 🙂 we shall see.

just some thoughts…

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My life is so darn good lately! I have a great family, amazing friends and things are just going right for me. I am nearly done with my Masters program (graduate in Dec.), took and passed my principal’s state exam (if you know of any schools looking for an AP, call me!!) and I am having my first article published in a magazine. I am blessed!

What I really would like to focus on now is writing. I feel it in my heart that writing is the next road in life that I need to pursue. I love to write and now that my hectic load is lightning, I can do more of it. Secretly I would like to be Carrie Bradshaw! 🙂 I would like to blog more and definitely write articles for publications. I have recently written a children’s book; however,I am in need of an illustrator.  If you are interested, please message me.

What are your passions? What do you sit around and dream of doing?

 

Don’t get discouraged

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So the newest Hill member turns 4 months today. Where did the time go???? She is doing so awesome meeting her milestones. She loves to smile and laugh at her silly big brother. Daddy can draw an instant smile just by looking at her. And mommy….well when mommy is around sister goes straight for the girls…my girls if you know what I mean. So much so that I can not physically keep up with her demand….therefore we have introduced formula for those times when mommy is running on empty.

At first it was difficult realizing that I can not provide supplement for my little one every time she wanted it. Hence my new mantra…don’t get discouraged. I have done my very best at providing for her for the first 4 months of her life and I am ok with that. Now, there is no stress on me to fulfill her needs and she is VERY content with formula. (and now daddy gets to partake in late night feedings!) I will continue to feed as long as I can, but I now can enjoy it knowing that she will get nourishment one way or another.

So is life!

Creative activity for a sick little one.

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So Monkey was sick and I had to stay home for a second day. We were getting a bit stir crazy so we got creative. I remembered making crayon chunks when I was a kid so we gave it a shot. The result was great. I think his words were “so cool Mom”

Step One: Cut off all the paper from crayons and snap in pieces.

Step Two: Spray a muffin tin with vegetable spray and place broken crayons in cups

Step three: Put muffin pan in oven, preheated to 275°, for approximately 10 minutes

Step Four: Place in fridge for about 20 minutes to harden. I stirred the wax right out of the oven to create the swirl effect.

Step Five: turn pan over to dump chunks out and enjoy!

What creative crafts or activities do you do when your little one is sick at home or stuck indoors due to bad weather? Share!!!

 

 

 

“Moo”ve over meat

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Tomorrow will officially mark 3 weeks the hubs and I have been meat free. I have also given up chose not to eat, for the most part eggs and dairy. I do not scrutinize labels, but if it mostly egg or dairy, count me out. Let me tell ya, I have never felt better. I have lost 7 lbs, sleep great every night, wake up energized and I never hit that 2pm slump. To make it even better, my 3 month old daughter, whom I nurse, has not projectiled spit up since the dietary switch.

It was suggested to me to watch “Forks over Knives” ummmm….if you never want to eat an animal byproduct again…watch this documentary. I highly suggested it for everyone. I had no idea some of the side effects of meat, dairy and eggs. WOW!!!!

What is so fantastic…the food we eat now. So many choices and yummy flavors. My evening cooking is like a fun science experiment. All the new things I have tried. I am so lucky and blessed to have a husband that will try anything I cook at least once. If he doesn’t like it, he kindly requests that I do not make that again. BUT at least he tries it. I can’t wait to see my blood work next time I visit the doctor.

I would love to share my recipes or you share yours!!!! Here’s to a great lifestyle of eating good for you foods!!! now I just need to find the time to workout! That’s a topic for another day!

Catch up…again!

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Life has been super busy and a super blessing. I can not apologize for not writing as much, seeing as how I am spending all my extra time with my family. At this point blogging requires me to get up before the rest of the house and let’s face it, that does not happen often. I would like to catch my readers up on what is going on in the life of a normal girl…

Work – Fifth grade is turning out to be not so bad. I have a special place in my heart for this age group. They are so torn…to act like big kids and not wanting to grow up. They try to act tough but are sent to tears so easily. I have fallen in love with one of my kiddos. I ask the hubs on a daily basis if we can adopt him. His home life is not so great, mom is facing prison time and an elderly grandma has custody of him and should not be responsible for him due to her health. I pray about it all the time. I did ask his grandma if the hubs and I can take him to TCU games and Keene games, seeing as he is a BIG sports fan. She was so excited with my offer.

School – Ladies and gentlemen…I have 2 class days left until my graduate school career is over…for now anyway. I finish on October 29th, first of two tests on Nov 12. and Graduation on Dec 17th. I can’t believe that it is nearly done!!! AMEN!

Faith – I have recently volunteered to lead a small group for my church. I am so excited. I got up early this morning to start preparing and I am stoked. I have wanted to do this for a while but my schedule has not allowed it until now. Please keep me in your prayers as I prepare for this new endeavor. I feel that the Lord has led me to this and I want to glorify Him.

Family – The hubs is doing good. This is such a busy time for him and we don’t get to see him as much as we would like during the week. Basketball season is getting closer and we all couldn’t be happier. I am pretty sure Maddox is a gym rat in the making. I took the kids to the gym for a fall league game…and to see daddy. As soon as we left the gym she started crying; when we returned she stopped. Awesome! Jax was the same way. My kids love noise…that is a great thing for a mom and coach’s wife! Maddox just turned 3 months and is so incredibly happy all the time. She is holding her head up on her own…most of the time. She is a talker and loves to smile. Jax is battling the wonderful allergy season but otherwise doing very well. He loves going to school and is learning so much. The stuff that comes out of his mouth is astounding. I love every minute of it.

I am not going to make any promises as to how much I will write. I will say that I would like to write weekly. A “thankful Thursday” piece. We shall see. I wish everyone a wonderful day, week, etc. Until next time….

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Life is great!

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It has been a bit since I have written. Life has been crazy! We welcomed Maddox Kristine into our lives July 3rd. She is the sweetest little peanut. The hubs, Jax and I are completely in love with her. She has been a really great little one. I get up about 2-3 times a night to feed her and then she goes right back to sleep.

I honestly feel completely blessed. God is good to us and we feel honored to have such wonderful children. Jax is doing good, but he has his outburst moments. I am not sure if he is jealous or just being 2 1/2…or both!

We are starting potty training on Monday! I bought him big boy undies and I am going to make him a potty sticker chart. Please give us your prayers and I am completely open to suggestions…How did you potty train your little one?

I’m back…..

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So I am not going to start off this post by apologizing for my absence….I will simply say HELLO AGAIN! Times have been quite chaotic around the household and now I have getting back on track…for today anyway. Since I last wrote:

  • Work ended….I helped graduate a great group of kiddos that I will truly miss, but I am excited to see them enter their next chaper of life. I pray that God will take them all in the direction of good choices and that they are all safe!
  • I accepted a new position – I will teach 5th grade self contained next year. I am sooo excited to be working with this age group and the people at the elementary just seem amazing! It was VERY bittersweet for me to leave the high school. That has been my work family for over 5 years and I will miss them dearly!
  • Summer grad school has started – I am trying my very best to stay on top of all my assignments while enjoying my summer.
  • The remodel of our downstairs is 95% complete! I at least have a working toilet downstairs…no more pregnant calls to the potty UPSTAIRS 2-3 times a night! Thank you to the Dennings and my BIL who helped put it back together!
  • Jaxon and I are having a blast everyday together. I absolutely love watching him grow and learn at such an amazing rate. This will be a hard summer to leave. I will however NOT miss Toy Story 2. We watch it/or its at least on the TV, at least twice a day. He is a bit obsessed!
  • NOW….we are awaiting the birth of our daughter, Maddox. She has already stated that she will be a handful. I have been in the hospital twice with false labor and at my last doctor’s appt we discovered that she is breech so I have a scheduled c-section next Tuesday. I am so ready to meet her!

SO what now???

We plan on taking the rest of the summer and just relaxing and enjoying every minute of it. I will not stress about school, work or anything else. I will dwell in every moment the Lord bestows upon my family. I have been blessed with amazing family members and friends that will take care of us and shower us with love.

Isn’t that what life is all about?

“There is nothing better for a man, than that he should eat and drink, and that he should make his soul good in his labor. This also I saw, that is was from the hand of God.”

Ecc 2:24

The results of the storm and housekeeping…..

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On Monday I arrived at worked a bit puzzled to see that half of the school lights were out and the AC was not functioning properly. The storm the night before did not cross my mind seeing as how I slept through the ENTIRE thing. It must have been worse by the school because it blew half the power out. My day at school lasted until 10ish when the power company had to shut down the remaining power so that it would not surge and BLOW up the school….well, that may be a bit dramatic. 

With that said …..my day ended and I was free to go home and start working on my grad school work….YEAH RIGHT!!! I have a two-year old I rarely get a whole day off with so I spent it with him and my mom. We went to lunch, shopping, playground play and lounged in the pool. What an awesome way to spend a Monday!

Tuesday morning rolls around…I was secretly wishing for another day off and……I GOT IT! This time the hubs got to stay home with us too. We took the top off the jeep, packed a lunch and headed to a drive through wildlife park! How fun was that. It took Jax a bit to warm up to the fact that large animals were coming up to our vehicle and some greedy enough to put their head in in search of food. He squirmed, took a handful of food threw it and yelled….GO AWAY ANIMAL. Through tears he would tell them bye-bye as we drove to the next herd. He said he loved it. I will take his word for it. It was a great experience.  I asked my hubs to start making more money so we  I could do this on a daily basis with Jax. (I’m not holding my breath!)

So, thank you to Oncor energy for not being able to get the electric situation fixed, although, my heart and prayers go out to those who lost homes and had extensive damage due to the storm.

housekeeping……

  • GREAT DAY today…..I sent in my application for Graduate studies graduation. I will be walking the stage in Dec of this year!!! How exciting! I have one class this summer and one class this fall and then I AM DONE!!!!!!
  • Today marks the third day of renovation to the downstairs bedroom and bath. I will soon have new sleeping quarters and Maddox will have her nursery! I was praying that this would all be completed before she arrived and I do believe it will!!! In the renovation, I have no internet so my postings may be sparse for a few days…hopefully not weeks!
  • I have completed two projects for NormalGirlArt. I will be posting pictures soon. (see lack of internet bullet above) NormalGirlArt is my attempt to channel my artistic ideas. I have started with clipboards…painting and decorating . I hope to expand to other pieces such as frames, crosses and paper weights. If you are interested in pieces, please let me know.

My life has changed….

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Two years ago I woke up in a hospital bed at 1:30am knowing that today was going to be the day that I would become a mom. I was never scared of labor or delivery…I was terrified of what kind of mother I was going to me. Would I make the right choices? How do I know what is right? Will he know how much I love him? Will he love me as much? After much walking, rocking, and pushing…14 hours to be exact…Jaxon Wesley Hill came into this world with 10 beautful toes and 10 beautiful fingers. I have not been the same person since.

It amazes me everyday how much I change because of him. I have learned patience, unconditional love and the miracle of God. What a blessing!!!! I now know that with his father and I, through God, Jaxon will never know what it feels like to be unloved. I am not sure what I was before, but I take great pride in knowing that I am now MOM.

With Maddox on the way; I feel extra blessed. He has given me the opportunity to spread His love to my children and teach them how to be productive citizens of this earth and follow the golden rule.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY JAXON!!!!!!!!!

Well…so I thought

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 I am going to start this with a disclaimer….this post was not written with the intention of getting pity comments. This is just a girl being honest with herself!

THESE ARE MY THOUGHTS LAST NIGHT ON THE WAY HOME FROM CLASS: The more I attend my graduate classes for principal certification, the more I realize that I do not fall into the category of an “excellent teacher.” I often times do not have EVERYTHING ready for class at the beginning. There are many times when my objectives are not clearly defined on the board. What I do know is that my kids GET IT. Their test scores reflect it and at the end of the year I can look back and reflect…whew, that was a tough one, BUT we made it.

MY THOUGHTS AS OF THIS MORNING: I am okay with being what the text calls “mediocre.” I stress too much on being a textbook excellent teacher. Working in a small district, I wear many hats. I would literally go insane if I had to be excellent in all that I do. I have come to this conclusion and I am OKAY with it. I would much rather be a mediocre (according to textbook) teacher than a mediocre mom.

To be an excellent teacher, I would have to spend hours at school perfecting my lesson plans, making sure all ducks are in a row, all objectives are clearly stated on the board, creating a plan that encompassed all 50 minutes of each period. I would rather know that what I am teaching is solid, although it may not be posted on the board. I would rather see the understanding in my kids eyes and on their tests, than stress about what my lesson book looks like.

By coming to this conclusion, I have realized I may be a mediocre teacher BUT I am an excellent wife and mother. My husband and my son know that I will be home to take care of them at the end of the day. There is a hot meal on the table, a warm bath drawn at night and mom is not too tired to play,love and enjoy our time together.

It is all about choices. Some may not agree with mine, but I have to realize that that is okay! I love my life and I know looking back years from now, my family will not have suffered.